As part of National Blog Posting Month (NaBloPoMo), I am taking part in a daily blog post challenge through the BlogHer website. Today’s prompt:
If you could be completely honest with no regrets, what would you say and to whom?
As a Christ follower, I do not believe in the concept of no regrets. Regrets are essential to keep us grounded and connected to all human beings with whom we interact. In the same way our nervous system protects our bodies (the feeling of heat helps keep us from being burned), I believe the ability to feel regret mirrors that function for our souls. Regret requires us to be critical and thoughtful with our actions and decision making so as to not hurt others or even ourselves.
All that being said, I am torn at the question in today’s prompt. I immediately think about the darkest time in my life, and how I would react then versus how I would react now if given the opportunity to
confront face the person whom I hold held responsible.
Being eleven years removed from my personal rock-bottom, and having lived a wonderful, God-restored life since then, I’ve been able to both grant and receive forgiveness and, for the most part, not look back. Still, there is something healthy – in a cathartic kinda’ way – to go through the motions in my mind of lashing out at those who’ve hurt me.
Still, in the end, His instructions as dictated by His word always ring true. As a result, I think my exercise for this prompt goes something like this.
“I’ve been waiting a long time to tell you this to your face. I haven’t seen you since you hurt me, and now it’s my turn to do the same!”
Bless those who curse you. Pray for those who hurt you. – Luke 6:28
“You looked me in the eyes and told me time and time again that you would be there for me. And when push came to shove, you weren’t.”
Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. – Colossians 3:13
“I gave up everything for you. I changed my whole life for you. I made you my priority above everything else.”
Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need. – Matthew 6:33
“We were perfect together and you ruined everything!”
The mind governed by the flesh is death, but the mind governed by the Spirit is life and peace. – Romans 8:6
“You left me there, all alone and by myself. You left me there shattered, and you didn’t even look back.”
Lord my God, I called to you for help, and you healed me. – Psalms 30:2
The moral of the story is clear. For every angry, hate-filled, vitriolic, driven-by-revenge tongue lashing the devil urges us to deliver, God has already provided His response to us via Scripture.
We pick and choose what we say and what we reveal to whom according to our human sensibilities, but because God sees all and God knows all, we have no choice but to be completely honest with Him. When we surrender our pain to God and allow ourselves to operate in forgiveness of others, we can rest assured we’re on the path of truly living a life with no regrets.